Who do you count on?
When I ask that question does someone pop in your head, maybe a few people. I know as I was typing the question a few people came to mind. As I think of each of those people, at the same time I remember the times that I couldn't count on them. I am sure there were times that they couldn't count on me.
Actually... I have an example of a time I let a friend down. My friend Stephanie needed help hanging a curtain rod in her new apartment and I had offered to help her. One weekend I was suppose to go to her house and install the curtain rod because each morning the sun would shine in and wake her up (she likes to sleep in, no she REALLY likes to sleep in!). I ended up doing something else the day I was to help her and she installed it herself. She was not very happy with me and things got worse when she had a guest in town and the rod fell of the wall. At that point she did not want my help.
Clearly I let her down, not because I wanted to hurt her or I didn't care... But because I decided to do something else... Thinking back I believe it was because I didn't want to go to 93rd street. 93rd seemed so far away from 57th street back then.
I am writing about this today because I was recently let down by a few people. Again, not out of malice by them, but because either I had expectations that they didn't know about, they didn't know how to help me or they decided to focus on themselves. Trust me I was still upset and perhaps a little angry. I am sure at the same time as I lashed back they were probably caught off guard... And thinking that I was crazy and off my rocker.
It is important to remember we are all going through our own stuff all the time. The people that we count on really will be there for us when it really matters and sometimes we just need to be really clear when we need help or when they have let us down.
So... go and say "Thank You" to the people you count on and say "Sorry" to the people you have let down!
I know who I count on, who do you count on?
